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When most of us think about etiquette, Emily Post and table manners may come to mind. However, death and funerals have their own set of etiquette rules. You may be unaware of what is considered appropriate or inappropriate behavior when it comes to funeral or funeral wake etiquette. This guide is designed to put you at ease, and fill you in on what to do (and what not to do) before, during and after a funeral.
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At cultural and other events, we are reminded to silence our mobile phones. This is more important than ever at a funeral. It's best if you turn your phone off completely. Even a vibrating phone will be an unwelcome distraction during a somber funeral service.
The first question you should ask yourself is whether you should attend the funeral in the first place. In most cases, if you feel you want to be there, then by all means go. However, if you were not on good terms with the deceased and your presence would upset surviving family members and friends, then it would be best for you to mourn in private.
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Another common question is what time you should arrive at a funeral. Whether it be a funeral or a wake, etiquette dictates that this is one occasion where you do NOT want to arrive fashionably late. Your best bet is to arrive early, but by that we mean 15 to 20 minutes early. This allows ample time for parking and going through the receiving line before the actual funeral begins. Don't arrive more than a half hour early, though, as the immediate family may be involved in last-minute arrangements.
As you greet the mourners and later as you listen to eulogies, you may wonder whether you need to keep your own emotions in check. When greeting the bereaved, you may be afraid of setting off their emotions if you begin to cry. While sympathetic tears can't be avoided, unless you are a member of the immediate family or one of a close circle of friends of the deceased, loud, mournful wails are probably not a good idea. The focus of attention should be on the deceased and immediate family.
If you're wondering whether it's okay to leave during a funeral service, in most cases the answer is a resounding no. However, if you need to quiet a crying or noisy child, or if you have a sneezing/coughing/hiccupping attack, you should leave the funeral.
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